Well, Gumi... Something you unexpected is that her ex-lover wasn't a smart guy but a lolita-looking girl. That means she was yuri (or I mean lesbian). But the reason why she was yuri is probably a nightmare for her.
It was the first time she met that girl. At that time, they went to a party. But on her way to the party, she had been sexually harassed. Even now she says that she is in a shadow. Just because of that shadow, she became hate male friends. Later, she started her yuri life with that girl. But several months later, she found that girl cheated her after that girl got her boyfriend.
Then when she met me, she found out that I am not like the guys she met before and I was still virgin even I am 35. Just because of I am an otaku guy, she was interested in it and even she said a cosplayer whose character was Keqing is probably me. That was a mistake, I never made such a costume.
Just because of this, she became to accept me due to she can also image of made me a trap (crossdress, I mean). Even that this could be a joke, but we finally can stay together.
Then when we are talking about our marriage, she said that it is not suitable right now because of her health problem. She need another operation, and it may cost over 60,000 yuan (about 10,000 dollar). She asked me for help. Money is not the main problem but there is a risk in operation, family members should accept it and sign on the sheet. She can accept that risk but mayber her family members can't so that she wants me to say something for it.
I said, “No matter what happened, no matter what kind of fate awaits, I want to stay with you.” Now that the first step of this operation is available, I just expect it could be a good news. The doctor said that she need about half a year to recover after all the operation finished. Right now, I maybe need to do something like pray or wish... Oh well.